In the past, I’ve used New Year’s as an opportunity to take a hard look at my life and things that I want to change about it. More often than not, this involved dieting, budgeting, and goals that involved pants sizes. In 2014, I’m making a different kind of resolution.
This year, I’ve got a new kind of accountability keeper. My tiny feminist is growing quickly and learning new things every day. She watches everything I do intently—drinking in my expressions, tones, and actions. Instead of having her hear self-deprecating statements or negative commentary on the way I look, I’ve resolved to only say positive things about my body.
It’s not until making such a resolution that I realized how very hard on myself I can be. Offhand comments like “I feel fat” or “I shouldn’t have eaten that” really stack up. I’m not just cutting out the negative talk though, I’m also trying to add in some positive statements. “I am a beautiful person” and “I feel so strong” and “I think I made some smart decisions today.”
In reality, my baby already thinks I’m the greatest thing since sliced bread. She lights up when I walk into a room, wants to share her Cheerios with me, and holds on tight when I go in for a hug. That is the person I am. That is what I have to offer the world.
Ultimately, I want her to know that after me, she can be her own biggest fan. Not only is she enough, she is a gift to this world. How can I teach her to think that way about herself, if I can’t do it for me? I resolve that my daughter will only hear me say positive things about my body. I resolve that my daughter will learn to model self-love and acceptance through my actions. I resolve that this world is a better place because of us.
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